Revamp!

Time to REVAMP the page!

I have not been very active and it is time to remedy that!

What's New?!

• Mommy World - My personal stories of venturing out into the Wild World of Mommies!
• FAQ - I have had a few people ask me to put up advice and my experiences on Parenting Topics.  You have a question?  I will answer it the best I can!
• Parenting Views- I intend to give you my views on all things Parenting, not because I want you to parent like me or see the world as I do, but because I believe that taking in as many views as possible on any subject and then picking and choosing what works best for your family is the best way to learn and grow as a mom. 

I hope to make this a sort of community where you can share your stories and views with me as well.  Maybe we can all learn from each other and help each other to grow on this wonderful, wild rollercoaster ride we call Motherhood.

My EPIC Dinner Party

My Dinner Guests!

If I could invite any 10 guests to My Dinner Party, I'd invite:

1. Ryan Gosling

Every dinner needs eye candy!

2. Tom Delonge

Every dinner needs musical entertainment...and eye candy.

3. Jesus

Every dinner needs interesting discussions and I have a few questions for this guy...

plus he'd probably have an interesting discussion with my next guest...

4. Nostradamas

Just for kicks I'd invite him to see what he says about our "future"...

like having a psychic palm reader, but BETTER!

5. Lady Gaga

Everyone at my party would be styled by Lady Gaga and receive fashion advice.

6. Chef Gordon Ramsey

That way we can critique his cooking and yell if we feel so inclined. 

7. King Henry VIII

I have to see what this guy was really like!  I really hope he looked like he did in the show The Tudors!  Who would marry this man after he already killed so many wives?!  I'm convinced there's something the books aren't telling us!

8.  Stephen Colbert

Every dinner needs comedic relief and maybe we'd hold a political rally his in honor.

9. Christian Grey

Why not?  It's my party and he's rich so maybe he'll bring a nice gift for the hostess...

and/or EYE CANDY!

10. The entire cast of Big Bang Theory

YES I'm cheating!  But they will make me so happy!  I picture them like the above picture at my party, but dressed Lady Gaga style.  :)

So there you have it.  I know you're all jealous of my EPIC party right? 

Happy thoughts...

One Sweet, One Screaming

How can kids be so different?
Jackson runs in this morning telling me that he had a dream that he was a baby squirrel and I was his mommy squirrel and I kept bringing him acorns.  <3 

As I type this Jack is sitting next to me rubbing my arm.  He is always the SWEETEST little boy.

Joshua on the other hand took every single book out of the bookcase in the boys' room closet.  EVERY book.  I told him if he made the mess he needs to clean the mess.  Well he didn't clean it up by the end of the night yesterday.  Today he has been in there for 2 hours (and counting) kicking and SCREAMING.

Can you tell he is my strong willed child? 

We will go to the library once he cleans it all up...if he cleans it up.  If not he will be in his room until dinner.  My will is stronger than his!  Last time this happened we had a 3 DAY strike on our hands.  When he becomes a teenager can I just move away?  Please?

Spring Cleaning

Does Spring Cleaning make you feel like NESTING during pregnancy?  It does for me and when I'm ampted up on cleaning I want to get it all done.

What I have done so far:
Go through kids' wardrobes
Go through A's closet
Go through A's toys and art supplies
Go through activity cabinet (includes play doh bin-EWW!, coloring books, art/craft supplies, educational toys)
Go through entertainment center
Go through books in bookcase and spread around bedroom
Go through kids' bathroom vanity/medicine cabinet
Go through DH's bathroom vanity
Garage
Organize entry way/go through shoes
Go through my closes
Powerwash house
Porch

What I still need to do:
Replace craft supplies- glue, markers, printer paper, construction paper
Replace toothbrushes
Go through my bathroom vanity
Deep clean shower and shower/tub
Recaulk bathrooms
Fix wall in kids' bathroom
Put up towel rack in kids' bathroom
Toothbrush holder in kids' bathroom
Fans
Air filter
Our closet (WORST SPACE EVER in this house!  Everything without a home ends up there.)
Go through DH's clothes
Garage Sale
Dust/clean nooks
Clean both fridges
Go through boys' toys again
Fix boys dresser
Touch up paint in kids' bathroom, boys' bedroom, living room near window and bar top, and plates behind doors
Go through kitchen cabinets/get rid of any appliances we haven't used
Set up filing system for paperwork
File paperwork in filing cabinet
Better organize/find place for cleaning supplies
More hooks in laundry room for purses/bags
Buy more towels for beach/pool
Plant some flowers by front of the house
Buy valence/curtain rod for kitchen window
Replace kitchen hardware

Anything I'm not thinking of?

Cut my nose off NOW!

      Do you ever mentally feel energetic and ready to accomplish a task, but your body just doesn't match up to that level of energy and ambition?  This is me every day lately.  I have chronic sinusitis and have since my early teens.  It was better while I was pregnant, you know for the majority of 5 straight years, but now after 15 months of having my body back, FINALLY, it is going back to this terrible sinus infections all the time state and I'm just not ready for it. 

      Can I please have my pregnant body back?  Okay just kidding.  Pregnancy is so hard on my body in other ways, but when you feel like you want to saw off your own nose due to these excruiatingly painful 2 month long infections you start to think this way...maybe I can live without a nose?...

    
       Why am I bringing this up?  Spring cleaning.  I feel motived.  I'm amped.  I'm ready to go!  All these spring cleaning blogs have me in the mood and when I'm in the mood it means we better get on top of this NOW because it doesn't happen often.  At the same time I'm drained. 

        Ready for a laugh MOMS?!
I went to the Dr. and they asked me how many days I've rested to try to get over this. 
HA!!!!!  I laughed at them!  They must be joking right?!  No.  Straight face.  Well Dr... I have 4 kids under the age of 6 what do you think?  I'm lucky if I can sleep at night.  Period.  I mean 5 hours of sleep is a good amount of rest right?  Apparently not.  I thought it was good.  :(


Let's hope I start feeling better, not just for myself but for my kids too.  Apparently fatigue and irritability are main symptoms of this and let me tell you I can definitely agree with that.  I never yell at my kids and during this extreme bought I have going on I've yelled more than I think I've ever had at them.  Poor things.  Please let me get better God so I can keep my self control.  I want to be a good mom and wife again.  Thanks to my hubby for being so sweet and loving me through the tough annoying wife segment here.  ;)

School Mom, Harder than it looks!

I have been so overwhelmed with all of the things that come along with school aged kids.  It seemed easy on paper.  Drop your kid off at school and pick them up.  I'll have 2 in school and I'll only have 2 at home.  It will be like it was when I had the 2 little ones at home when I only had 2 kids.  We'll go shopping, go to the park, go out for coffee with my mom.  I organized and organized and organized again.  Everything was in place; schedules, menu plans, organizations we'd be part of and not be part of.

It wasn't enough.

Nobody explains to you how exhausted you'll be.  When you have little sleep and an additional workload to conquer every day you're lucky not to fall asleep during the day when you should be watching the toddler and infant.  I'm not a big coffee drinker and never have been.  I guess you could say I'm a "social coffee drinker", because I must admit when I go with my friends to Starbucks I will get a Carmel Frappucino occasionally.  Let me tell you though, I understand my mother on a whole new level now.  

I have become addicted to coffee out of necessity.
I strongly believe coffee should be something moms can use as a tax write off at the end of the year.  It is a work expense!  I go through 4-6 cups of coffee on a normal day just to keep up with the driving, the cooking, the cleaning, the refereeing, the homework and after school snacks, the bedtime routines...not to mention the mental exhaustion with dealing with the school system, the teachers, the other moms and just the plain politics of it all.  I'm a night owl, but by 6pm I want to curl up in a little ball and drift off into dreamland...of course my night doesn't end at bedtime and I am always up late anyways.  It is inevitable.  By the time I can get to sleep I'm so stressed out that I can't shut my head off and I guess I'm admitting a guilty pleasure here but to de-stress I do something horrible.  I watch awful reality tv and eat and eat and eat.  Now usually it's just whatever was for dinner that I never got to eat because someone spilt their milk and someone else wanted seconds and someone had a temper tantrum because they didn't want to eat and someone else needed more to drink and by the end of it bath time has arrived.  >_<

I am not complaining.  I love that my kids are gaining their independence and are so proud of themselves.  They have friends and self-confidence and are very artistic, creative, and intelligent and are able to let those qualities shine through more then being at home with 3 siblings.  I guess what I have come to realize is that my life is transitioning into a new phase.  I'm sad to turn the page, but I am excited about the next chapter.  My babies are growing up, but they are more amazing every day.  As far as my new work load...I'm trying to learn to love my new life, establish a new routine that works us, become more family oriented around our home, and survive it all.  I have cut down on the organizations we are part of and the extracurricular activities.  I have come to realize that you can't do it all and shouldn't do it all.  Our family is number one and that needs to be the priority, not helping out whoever asks the most or seems the most desperate. 

Priorities have shifted.  I no longer look for mom friends to join me on my journey.  We are all so different and I just embrace that we come in and out of each others lives and if that person can inspire you, even for just a few months, they were important and will always be important.  We shape each other.  We encourage each other.  We support each other.  My top priority is not finding a mom in a mom's group to ease me through my loneliness and cheerlead me in the right direction.  I don't feel lonely anymore.  I feel empowered.  The other moms have lifted me off the ground.  They have given me wings to fly.  I'm flying solo in motherhood and I don't mind.  My journey is different and we should never compare, but I do know I will see my friends from time to time on this journey that we all take.

The hardest thing about my new chapter of motherhood, SCHOOL MOM, is that I'm starting over.  I have to learn new rules and figure out who I am and what I hope to accomplish.  I need to shift into a new mode.  What an important role I have taken on in my next chapter.  I hope I can do it to the best of my ability.  I hope I can get better at it.  I am so lucky to have been given this opportunity in my life, but I feel like I'm a first time mom.  How different my life has become...

Supplementing The Hubs Income

Everyone could use some extra money, especially Stay At Home Moms! 

Living on one income in a two income society is difficult.  Yes we can save money with coupons and being thrifty, cutting utility costs and reducing your bills, and living on a cash budget, but that only gets you so far.  I am starting to think that with 4 kids and all the extracurricular needs/wants that go with each one or just the fact that this family would like a little money for an entertainment budget, we may need to start supplementing my husband's income.  I must be crazy to think this with how busy my days are and how exhausted I am at the end of the day, but crazy never stopped me.  :P 


The question is: What can I do from home to make a little extra cash every month, without disrupting my family's lives.  Bonus points for incorporating my kids in this as to teach them real life money making skills and the value of money.

I know there are all kinds of businesses out there geared towards Stay At Home Moms where you sell a company's merchandise, which is regularly overpriced and you have to sell to your friends and try to get your friends to start up their own "business" to form some type of pyramid scheme.  I know all too well.  I've been approached about these by friends and strangers.  I've watched my friends get sucked into these, spending more on the "parties" then the profits from the party.  The time and effort seems unjustified.  Plus do I really want to open my home up to strangers and have them around my children?

Another common job that is suggested to me on a regular basis is a home daycare.  I know I could do this and do well with this (look at my experience! haha), but is this really what is best for my children?  We already have 4 small children, so I could really only take in one child because if there was an emergency or I needed drive somewhere that is all the car seats my minivan will carry.  My children would have to divide the attention I have for them with another person.  The parents and I may not view parenting the same or they may send their child over while sick and if someone in our house gets sick it turns into a 3 week cycle until everyone has been sick and I have to sanitize the house like crazy after every bout, which I'm sure many of you can sympathize with.  How good of a caregiver would I be to all these children if I'm sick and I have 5 (or more) little ones to care for?  Plus, I'm certain my marriage would suffer as a result to my exhaustion.  No thanks.  I think I have enough little monkeys on my plate for now.  ;)

I can't do telemarketing or any phone related job, because...well let's face it, little kids in a completely tiled home makes for a very distracting background.  I'd be continually putting someone on hold and this also takes away from my children's wants/needs, so that's out.

Mystery shopping...can you imagine shopping at a store with all these kids and trying to complete an actual task, besides keeping the kids all in one spot without breaking something while dealing with the inevitable temper tantrum over a toy, boredom, or the sibling who won't stop touching them...NO THANKS!  This is why grocery shopping either takes two people or requires my husband or I to make a run out by ourselves.

Baking.  My mom's main side job as a single mom was gourmet baker.  She made desserts for restaurants and made good money, but the thought of it is very daunting.  The marketing for it and the licensing now required for it would probably not happen.  Needless to say, I have a hard enough time making 3 full meals and 2 snacks daily for my family.  I feel accomplished if I can fit in a brownie or muffin mix occasionally.  I don't think I'm cut out for it like my mom was.

The one thing I seem to be somehow talented at, to the point that I have family members and friends seeking out my "expertise" on regular basis, is reselling old things.  Somehow I seem to have an eye for picking up things at garage sales or family's homes for cheap or free and selling them to make a much larger profit.  After moving into our new home I took one week selling unwanted/unneeded items we had in storage and made $1100, which went to buying a minivan 2 weeks before my fourth child made his appearance into the world (Thank God!).  When in a bind I can usually come up with a couple hundred dollars in a couple of days.  I've never really looked into bettering myself on this and I use Craigslist exclusively to make this money, but now I'm curious.  Can I make more by buying things from garage sales and selling them on Ebay?  I've read some people buy off Craigslist, things like collectibles, and resell on Ebay as well.  Maybe I should start thinking about Estate Sales or Storage Units and making profits on them, but I wouldn't feel comfortable doing these things without really researching what to do and look for.  I'll have to find my niche.

It's hard not to think this may be my solution.  It doesn't affect the kids negatively, although space would be a concern.  The pros seem to greatly outweigh that though.  The children would learn real life skills with the ability to make their own money and also they could learn the value of money in a more hands on way.  Just think, we are making a transition in this society from an Industrialized Economy to an Information Based Economy.  Maybe it is time I hop on the bandwagon and introduce these skills to my children while they're still young, so that it is second nature to them.  Added bonus: this is probably the greenest career I could take part in, so my children can learn simple ways to protect the environment and do it without giving it much thought when they're older because they've always been around it.  I think this is something I could actually enjoy, once I learn more about the ins and outs of Ebay, auctions, and storage unit sales.

What supplemental income tactics have worked for you best?